Friday, February 10, 2012

2 Many Masters

A martial arts student approached his teacher with a question. "I'd like to improve my knowledge of the martial arts. In addition to learning from you, I'd like to study with another teacher in order to learn another style. What do you think of this idea?"
"The hunter who chases two rabbits," answered the master, "catches neither one."

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Thursday, February 9, 2012

What the FBI had on Steve Jobs

You've heard about things going on your permanent record? Steve Jobs had one, too.

The Federal Bureau of Investigation just made public its file on the Apple co-founder. The agency assembled the investigation in 1991 because Jobs was being considered for a presidential appointment by George H.W. Bush.

It wasn't clear what position the White House had in mind, but the file indicates that it would not require Senate confirmation. At any rate, the background check showed Jobs would have brought a, well, different perspective to the executive branch.

The question of whether Jobs, who has admitted to drug use in his youth, still used alcohol or drugs while at Apple comes up frequently in the file. It appears nearly everyone interviewed believed he no longer used drugs.

An interview subject from International Business Machines said that he never "witnessed any illegal drug usage or alcohol abuse by the appointee" and said Jobs "seemingly lives within his financial means and he never witnessed any examples of an extravagant lifestyle having been practiced by Jobs."

An unnamed female source said Jobs "drank only a little wine and did not use any kind of illegal drugs."

"During the late 1960s and early 1970s, Mr. Jobs may have experimented with illegal drugs, having come from that generation," the report says, citing a redacted source. Another source interviewed by the FBI said he was aware that Mr. Jobs used marijuana and LSD while they attended college.

Two individuals, who were acquainted with Mr. Jobs" said that Jobs was "strong willed, stubborn, hardworking and driven, which they believe is why he is so successful."

Another source said she was reluctant to discuss Jobs, because she had "questions concerning his ethics and morality."

A Palo Alto, Calif.-based man who identifies himself as a former "good friend" of Jobs said that while he was "basically an honest and trustworthy person, he is a very complex individual and his moral character is suspect. Jobs "alienated a large number of people at Apple, as a result of his ambition." The person indicates that he knew Jobs while "starting up" an unspecified company. This person also says that he did not receive stock from his actions that are redacted.

Another source whose name is redacted says that Jobs "had undergone a change in philosophy by participating in eastern and/or Indian mysticism and religion. This change apparently influenced the Appointee's personal life for the better."

The source says that "based upon his newfound religious beliefs, the Appointee lives more of a spartanlike and at times even monastic existence." And while Jobs "is not an engineer in the real sense, he understands base technology and technical jargon to the extent that he is an innovative force within the technical community, in terms of the contributions he has made.

Another source whose name is redacted says that Jobs "had undergone a change in philosophy by participating in eastern and/or Indian mysticism and religion. This change apparently influenced the Appointee's personal life for the better."

The source says that "based upon his newfound religious beliefs, the Appointee lives more of a spartanlike and at times even monastic existence." And while Jobs "is not an engineer in the real sense, he understands base technology and technical jargon to the extent that he is an innovative force within the technical community, in terms of the contributions he has made.

Write to Joseph Walker at joseph.walker@dowjones.com at dowjones.com


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Quit: Do it Now

A few years ago I was -- like some of you reading this -- overextended, overworked and deeply unhappy about it. I was a young psychology professor desperately seeking tenure, with two toddlers at home and a husband whose work kept him away for days at a time. I exercised once a week on a good week, rarely saw my friends or extended family and couldn't remember the last time I'd read a book that wasn't about statistics.

It was just too much. Something had to give. And it did. I left my job, not knowing exactly what I was going to do next. It was the toughest decision I've ever made, but it was also one of the best.

As a psychologist who studies motivation, I spend a lot of time trying to figure out why people give up too soon when trying to reach a goal. But the truth is, a lot of us suffer from the opposite problem: not knowing when, or how, to quit. We take on too many projects and commitments, and end up turning in 10 mediocre jobs instead of one or two stellar performances.

To be sure, quitting a job may not be an option for many, but most of us surround ourselves with plenty of unofficial projects that may not be worth pursuing.

So, why is it so hard to throw in the towel, even when on some level you know you should? For one thing, it's embarrassing to admit to others that you've bitten off more than you can chew, or that you've made an error of judgment. No one likes to be thought of as a "quitter." For another, quitting means contemplating the sunk costs -- all the time and energy that you've already put into reaching your goal that you can never get back.

Of course, once you realize that you probably won't succeed, or that success isn't worth the unhappiness your project is causing you, it shouldn't matter what the sunk costs are. If your job, your advanced degree, or your unfinished novel has taken up some of the best years of your life, it doesn't make sense to give them even more years. That will only make you miserable.

But that doesn't make walking away any easier. So here's a simple game plan for cutting your losses.

At the outset:

Figure out which goal has to go. It might be obvious, but most of the time it won't be, so you'll need to really give some serious thought to your priorities. What matters most to you? And, just as important, what makes you feel effective and fulfilled? Anything that doesn't, might need to get the boot.
Be confident. You'll want to know that you are giving up your goal for the right reasons, so ask yourself these two questions:
What do I need to reach this goal, and can I get what I need? Look at the whole picture. If successfully reaching this goal means more time and effort than you can spare without sacrificing other important goals, you may need to walk away. (Maybe you can't work 50 hours a week, spend time with your kids and write that screenplay, and that's OK.)
Will reaching this goal cost me too much? Will it make me unhappy? Sometimes the problem isn't limited time and energy, it's that you really don't like what you're doing as much as you thought you would. You find the process of reaching the goal boring, frustrating or unrewarding. Circumstances change, and it's OK for your goals to change too.
Once you've made up your mind that quitting is right move:

Stop dwelling on the past. When regrets about sunk costs creep into your thinking, have a replacement thought ready, one that focuses on everything you gain from walking away and moving on. (Example: "If I feel guilty about giving up on my unfinished novel, then I'll remember how good it feels to have more time on the weekends with my kids.")
Replace the goal with one that does work for you. To keep yourself moving forward and feeling satisfied with your choice, give some thought to what you will do instead. If you just don't have the time to write a 600-page novel, is there some other way you could express your thoughts and creativity that you do have time for, like blogging?
Learning to know when to fold 'em is essential for your well-being, and ultimately for your personal and professional success, too. When you can give up on a goal that isn't working, you'll be freeing up the valuable resources you need to make the most of the goals you do pursue -- the ones really worth pursuing.

by Heidi Grant Halvorson, Ph.D..

For more science-based strategies you can use to reach your goals and get happier and healthier in 2012, check out Succeed: How We Can Reach Our Goals and Nine Things Successful People Do Differently.

This post appeared originally on WSJ.com

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Sunday, February 5, 2012

All Sentient Beings

All sentient beings are essentially Buddhas.
As with water and ice, there is no ice without water;
apart from sentient beings, there are no Buddhas.
Not knowing how close the truth is,
we seek it far away
--what a pity!

Hakuin Ekaku Zenji

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Saturday, February 4, 2012

Are You A High-Functioning Addict?

At the bitter depth of Emily's drinking problem, she was married to a successful writer, raising a nine-year-old child and volunteering as a part-time teacher at her daughter's school, all while running the household finances. "We had a million-dollar house, were part of the community, and I believed that as long as my child was well-dressed and doing well and I made it to her little events, I was doing okay," she says. "Never mind that every time I would drop her off at school, I rushed to the liquor store to pick up a fifth of vodka."

Emily is not alone. According to the National Institute of Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism (NIAAA) 2007 study, 19.5 percent of all alcoholics -- nearly four million people -- are of the "functional" subtype. These high-functioning alcoholics are able to create enough manageability within their home or professional lives that the consequences of their drinking are often too subtle or well hidden for them to experience the turmoil that forces many other alcoholics into submission.


According to Dr. Mark Willenbring, a nationally recognized expert on alcohol abuse and the former director of the NIAAA's division of treatment and recovery research, "Alcoholism isn't what it used to be. We think of it as this really dramatic, debilitating disorder, but actually there is a wide range of alcoholism, from moderate drinking to at-risk drinking. Every alcoholic isn't Mel Gibson or Lindsey Lohan -- people who are really train wrecks. Many high-functioners try to set limits but inevitably they go over them. They want to quit but they can't. They might suffer from hangovers, insomnia or heartburn, but they don't experience the same life-disrupting problems that befall other addicts. So unless they get a real wake-up call, they just end up pursuing the same path."

That doesn't mean that those who've held onto their homes and families are somehow safe. According to Sarah Allen Benton, a mental health counselor at McLean Hospital in Waltham, Massachusetts, "While HFAs may be succeeding professionally or academically, they may also be engaging in dangerous behaviors -- such as drinking and driving, having risky sexual encounters and blacking out." Benton, author of Understanding the High-Functioning Alcoholic, says that high-functioning alcoholics face grave consequences the longer they keep drinking. "Although they may have been able to avoid serious trouble professionally or personally to a certain point, it is only a matter of time before alcoholism will lead to severe problems," she says.

Raised in an upper-middle class neighborhood of Washington, D.C, with the good looks and privileged air of a young Gordon Gecko, Jim, 34, was one of these high-functioning alcoholics. He began drinking and snorting coke while he was an undergrad at an Ivy League college; soon afterwards, he went on to another coveted college to get his MBA.


He graduated with honors and a heroin problem. "I hear people talk about using and being strung out immediately," he says. "I used heroin like a gentleman, sniffing it for years. I didn't shoot up. And because I went to good schools, had good jobs and was
making lots of money, nobody cared until the end."

But as Jim's responsibilities increased, so did his drug use. He started working in a prestigious financial company, and, as he explains, his habits became harder to conceal. "When you're working at a big firm, it's okay not to be around; if I was buying
dope on the street or going shopping -- which I would do while high -- no one would really notice. But then I would get more work and be expected to show up more, and I was so strung out, I just couldn't do it." Indeed, admitting that your life has become unmanageable is difficult when you have money in the bank and everyone in society tells you that you're a success. "Being a junkie was legitimized for me because I was doing well in all other areas of my life," he says. "Still, that was a time when making money was easy and Wall Street jobs were plentiful. I never would have been able to continue getting loaded if things were like they are now."

Dr. Domenic A. Ciraulo, a professor and the Chairman of Psychiatry at Boston University School of Medicine, echoes that belief, saying that the current downturn in the economy helps bring on the consequences of overindulgence more quickly. "I have seen a lot of people who have been laid off, people who have been suffering because of the economy slowing down," he says. "They start drinking a lot, which often means they'll be the first ones to be let go. After a while, they see the money running out and then they realize that they have to do something. It's not until then that they are finally willing to see their alcoholism as a problem."

For Melissa, a 55-year old practicing attorney who dresses like a catalogue model for Brooks Brothers, the biggest challenge to her sobriety was her ego, not the economy. "I was so high-functioning with a good job, a husband and a big house that even if
someone had come and told me I was an alcoholic, I wouldn't have believed them," she says. "I was doing really high-level work for really prestigious firms, and it allowed me to maintain my level of denial because I thought if I can do all of these things -- if my bosses are giving me all this responsibility -- I must be doing fine."

This is common thinking for many high functioning users, especially those who hold jobs that lend themselves particularly well to drinking. According to Ciraulo, "One of the biggest challenges for functioning alcoholics is when they are in a profession that
encourages social drinking, like the legal profession." (Journalists, Wall Street traders, advertising agency employees and those who work in sales are also prone to public drinking.)

Melissa found that when she was finally faced with losing her job and actually attempted to stop drinking, she was powerless over it. "I think it's difficult for any alcoholic that has a certain level of comfort in their lives to see that they need to quit," she says. "It took some time for me to realize that I didn’t have any other excuses or things to point to that were the problem. It was hard to think, 'I need to make a fundamental life change.' Even with a couple of years sober, I can still look around at people with much lower bottoms, and wonder if I really am an alcoholic."

The other issue for HFA's is that they tend to have so many responsibilities that taking 30 days off for treatment can let their secret lives out of a bag in a way that makes them uncomfortable. "I didn't know how I could take the time off to get help, because I was carrying this secret," Emily says. "I needed to detox but how I was going to get out of work, who was going to take care of my daughter, what were my parents going to say? Eventually I just stopped showing up for life, and I realized I was either going to destroy my life, or I was going to have to stop drinking."

According to Willenbring, high-functioning alcoholics "are not getting DUIs, their spouses are not threatening to leave them and they're not losing their jobs. If you ask most people what it would take for them to walk into Betty Ford and Hazelden, they will all say it would have to be the last option they had left. We need to make treatment affordable, attractive and accessible for the HFA, reaching them through the current healthcare system, their family doctor or through their psychiatrists."

Over time, Melissa has come to see how well she functioned before getting clean as a lucky break. As she says, "Do you want to get treatment when you have just gotten cancer or when you're at stage four? I'm really blessed that I managed to got sober
when I did, and not when I had nothing left to lose."

Kristen McGuiness is a freelance writer and regular contributor to The Fix who wrote previously about the 13th step and dreaming about drinking. She is the author of 51/50: The Magical Adventures of a Single Life.

by Kristen McGuiness

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Thursday, February 2, 2012

Basho

Lightning:
Heron's cry
Stabs the darkness

Basho

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Monday, January 30, 2012

The Ten Thousand Things

Whether you are going or staying or sitting or lying down,
the whole world is your own self.
You must find out
whether the mountains, rivers, grass, and forests
exist in your own mind or exist outside it.
Analyze the ten thousand things,
dissect them minutely,
and when you take this to the limit
you will come to the limitless,
when you search into it you come to the end of search,
where thinking goes no further and distinctions vanish.
When you smash the citadel of doubt,
then the Buddha is simply yourself.

Daikaku


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